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Butterchurn Girl's avatar

People in social situations get so hung up on "what do they think of me?" that they forget to ask themselves "what do *I* think of *them*?". Being the one who doesn't care the most leads to better quality social interactions, and the opportunity to interact with better quality people.

I am really enjoying this series. You're applying specific language to concepts I've understood but not codified, which is allowing me to clarify my thinking on them. Thank you.

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John Samson's avatar

Thanks. Socially unintuitive isn’t an exaggeration. Nor is the mercurial nature. I can describe analytic socialization like a loose system now, but it developed organically and unconsciously out of necessity. Parenting - especially the child smarter than me - distilled a lot of unconscious stuff into something communicable. Current events have sharpened the practical side. Interestingly, these posts have made me more aware of how it all fits together.

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tomatobear's avatar

Please do more, it helps out a ton.

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Man of the Atom's avatar

Pertinent and actionable.

Thank you!

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John Samson's avatar

Appreciate the feedback. It’s a fine line - the kind of life that offers worthwhile observations also tends to be triggering. But the right personal-social-abstract balance -> applicability seems effective. Limiting the personal to the relevant and then always tie into the useful eliminates autobiography for its own sake.

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tomatobear's avatar

During the first half, I was filled with questions on what to do which the later half answers fully. The language is a bit above my head, so got the chance to learn a few more words.

All in all, awesome article. Looking forward to more.

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